Notice of complaint related to 2022-0725

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CITY
CUSTA
OFFICE OF
POLICE OVERSIGHT
NOTICE OF COMPLAINT
August 26, 2022
ICMS #: 2022-0725
On August 26, 2022, the OPO received an online complaint.
The complainant alleges: I am not sure who or where to go about this, but my boyfriend
is an APD officer and abusive. He lies about not living with me and my/our child(ren) and
forces me to give him my child support and threatens that if I do not he will make me and
my children homeless, and take our child we share together that I have primary custody of.
He is mean and cruel to my children that are not his, especially my special needs child. I
am forced and left to pay all the bills in the home we share, and if I cannot pay them he
refuses to help with them. I am unemployed and live on social services because of him and
his unwillingness to help in any capacity, including with child care the state forced him
into child support because he refused to add his own daughter to his health insurance and
I had to apply for Medicaid for her. There are many times when I run out of food stamps
because he comes home and eats all the food I have set aside for my children's lunches,
and when I ask him for help to buy more groceries he refuses and tells me to get a job.
I
can't drive my kids to school because I never have gas, and when I ask him for gas he gives
me $5 SO I can't go anywhere else without having to ask him for $5 more. I have had to go
without car insurance because I can't afford it when having to choose between water and
auto insurance, my car registration expired in
and he will not help with getting
the inspection or renewal, and recently I had to drive around with no breaks because he
forced me to send him my child support instead of allowing me to get the vehicle I drive 5
children around in safe driving conditions. I am not allowed to drive to see my other child,
I have 6 children and one moved out because of him and now I can't go to see her. I have
had to miss important holidays and events, including her 16th birthday because he refuses
to allow me any gas to get there or money to spend to pay for a meal with her. We are
constantly getting HOA fines in our rental home because he refuses to clean up or do
anything around the house (inside or out) and our neighbor's home values have been SO
affected by this that they have pitched in to help me get things cleaned up, like our backyard
that went 10 months without being mowed. I am solely responsible for the interior and
exterior of the home, he will not even change a light bulb or air filter. Right now he has to
drive his mom's vehicle because he racked up over $4k in tolls and can't get his car
registered, and was pulled over and warned not to take the tolls again. On top of all of this,
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he is very emotionally abusive towards me and my children, telling me I am worthless
because I have nothing else to give him after my child support is handed over to him, telling
my special needs child that their dad is a loser and a
saying in front of my teen that
her little siblings are going to grow up to be psychos because their dad is psycho, telling
me in front of my teen that her dad is a loser and that she needs to move out because she
refuses to clean up after his squalor that she has done for SO long but now given up on. He
constantly leaves guns, knives, loose ammo, and all sorts of dangers around the house
within the children's reaches, he has called me and asked me to look around for a gun he
left on the bed and I found it on the floor where my toddler took it out of the holster. I have
had to bring him his police gear, guns, radio etc because he forgets them at home, and he
has yelled at me for asking him to get rid of an open container he drank in the passenger
seat in front of my teens who were scared of getting pulled over because of it. My oldest
has zero respect for law enforcement now because he is constantly breaking laws in front
of the kids, like no car insurance, open container situation, no seat belt, speeding, and
driving cars that are not street legal and he put her down for expressing her concerns. When
he comes home he interrogates the kids and me, asking them who they have seen today,
where they have been, what have I done, demands to see proof of things such as receipts,
and tells me that when I do get a job the paychecks I will get will go to pay for his child to
go to private school, but not my other children. When I asked for help with child care he
tells me that his mom, who lives in
and works full-time, will take our daughter
and watch her. I have also been threatened by him that he will take custody of our daughter
when he does nothing for her. I have paid for all of her clothing, car seats, medical needs,
food, water, electricity, etc and I have been the only parent to arrange for and take her to
any appointments necessary, though he did attend a few with me when she was an infant.
Every other day there are packages that arrive for him from online shopping, but I and my
children live without toilet paper, soap for our bodies and dishes, no cleaning supplies for
cleaning up the home, and recently I had surgery that he has refused me the ability to
purchase the aftercare needs and supplies required for my recovery. When I begged him
for help with my recovery needs, including helping to pick me up out of bed and walk to
go to the bathroom his response to me was, "You didn't help me when I was sick with
Covid SO " I am under SO much duress I have had to seek out psychological help SO I can
go to sleep at night, and function enough to care for my children. I am on anxiety
medications that I have never had to be on before, and I am a Veteran who has experienced
significant stress before.
I
found a stack of pawn shop receipts for things he
constantly buys, guns and gun accessories, and when I told him he is spending money on
these things and the electricity is being cut off
he accused me of stealing his pawn
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shop receipts. I don't know what purpose those would serve me but I did not take his
shopping receipts. I did take pictures of them to ask him why is he doing this when I and
the children are living without basic needs, and the rent is being paid late every month.
This angered him and he began to berate me as he always does, and SO I asked him to please
leave as I do not feel safe around him I feel things have been escalating and he could
possibly hurt me. The other night I asked him not to shine a flashlight in my face and not
to wake our daughter, as he does every night to me and her because he just wants to (she
is 2 and goes to bed at ) and he told me to "shut the fuck up" and threw a pillow at me.
I am not allowed to put my daughter in her own bed in her bedroom, he wants her sleeping
in our bed, and if I do he will go wake her up and put her in our bed. I have been very
apprehensive about speaking up about this for SO long because of the fear that he threatens
me with, making me and my children homeless, but I am to the point that I am crying all
day, and can't sleep at night. I need help.
This notice of complaint is a request for Internal Affairs to initiate an investigation to
determine if the employee conduct is within compliance of APD policy, Civil Service
Rules, and Municipal Civil Service Rules.